No one really knows…
…what it feels like to carry a baby in your belly, via someone else's genetics, until you have done it.
I know. I have done it.
In my ebook "Why I'm Glad My Eggs Didn't Work" I honor the pain and the beauty of infertility, and provide a source of hope for those looking to carry on this magical path to parenthood. It’s a book beyond clinical trials, data and research. It's a personal story about rising above your broken eggs and finding purpose and joy. It’s a place to find comfort in knowing you are truly seen and heard, and a sense of relief that it’s all going to be okay.
LIKE MANY WOMEN WHO ARE FACED WITH THE IDEA OF CONCEIVING VIA DONOR EGGS, WHAT WE NEED MOST IS hope.
I looked to my doctors, therapists, friends and family to tell me it was all going to be okay. No one was able to give me the perspective I needed. They tried their best to tell me what I needed to hear, but still I felt so lost. I was asking people for directions that hadn’t been where I was going. How are they supposed to know?
I needed to hear from someone who had been through this, that could tell me they didn’t have any regrets. I wanted to know that they were happy and had bonded with their baby. I wanted to hear that they were madly in love with their child and that their child loved them too.
I felt so alone in my grief. No one truly understood what it felt like to grieve my DNA getting passed on, not even my husband.
So, I Decided To Write My Very Own, Donor Egg Guide Book
It’s a book beyond clinical trials, data and research. It is a personal story about rising above your broken eggs and finding purpose and joy. It’s a place to find comfort in knowing you are truly seen and heard, and a sense of relief that it’s all going to be okay.
Come cry with me, laugh with me and celebrate the joy of finding your way to and through motherhood via someone else’s genetics. It’s definitely worth celebrating!
Victoria x
A 56-page Donor Egg IVF Ebook
A book beyond clinical trials, data and research. It is a personal story about rising above your broken eggs and finding purpose and joy. It’s a place to find comfort in knowing you are truly seen and heard, and a sense of relief that it’s all going to be okay.
Let’s hear it from the readers:
Lauren Cover
(Donor Nurse):
“Victoria’s personal reflection on infertility is spot on! I wish every patient would read her story before engaging in infertility treatments. She is a true testament to the incredible journey so many women must go through in hopes of creating or completing their family.”
Lindsey says:
“This is by FAR the best book I’ve read about donor eggs. Victoria has personally helped me on my journey to DE IVF and I couldn’t be more grateful for her guidance. She mixes the perfect amount of humor, emotion and facts in this book. She articulates her thoughts in a way that makes me feel so much better and confident about this path I have found myself on. Any woman/couple considering using donor eggs should read this book ASAP!”
Vanessa:
“Reading through the book, I felt a sense of relief. It isn’t an easy process for anyone and it’s okay to struggle through it. It’s okay to cry and feel all the feels! “It’s okay. It’s okay. it’s OKAY.”
If you’re going down the donor IVF route, I HIGHLY recommend this book.
Thank you, Victoria for being such a pillar of strength for this community.”
Olivia:
“The last two paragraphs of the final chapter had me ugly crying happy tears because I realized that my dream of a baby was actually something I could envision again.
This should be a mandatory read for everybody who is in that transition. Thank you for this book, Victoria. You are such a beautiful soul.”
DONOR EGGS CHANGED MY LIFE
After 8 years of infertility and 5 years of fertility treatments, in 2017, I finally got pregnant with the help of an egg donor and it was the absolute BEST thing that ever happened to me. This child was always meant for me, genetics not included. She is the place my life begins and ends. The first time I heard her heart beat - it was the most familiar sound. The first time our eyes met - I knew I had loved her many moons ago, for thousands of years, in previous lives, on another planet, forever and ever ago. You can’t screw up what’s meant for you, that’s just how the universe works.
She was always for me and I was always for her.
I know now that some of the things I lost, were never really mine to have. Like the imagined child with my DNA, that child was never really for me. Like the easy road to pregnancy, without any hard life lessons. That wasn’t for me either. I didn’t choose donor eggs, they chose me, and for a very good reason.
Want a sneak peek?
Read a free chapter from the book!
Download the FREE mini-ebook: ‘Motherhood Via Donor Eggs - How to Grieve Your DNA and Find Hope’
You aren’t supposed to do this alone
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donor conception
virtual Support
Through my support organization, Infertility Unfiltered, we offer a variety of virtual series that provide a safe and solid support system, experts in the field, and tools to get you through your infertility journey. With specific series designed for all different types of infertility journeys, you can find one that works best for you. Below are the two specific to donor conception, led by me.
I hope to see you there!
Donor Conception Destination Series
A seven week virtual series for intended parents or parents via donor conception . It is recommended that you complete the Donor Conception Journey Series before signing up unless you are already a parent of a donor conceived child.
Topics Covered:
Talking to Your Child
Cultivating a Healthy Parent-Child Relationship
Handling Uncomfortable Reactions
What Chosen Family is
How to Navigate Donor Siblings
Bonus Family
Donor Conception Journey Series
An eight week virtual series designed for intended parents via donor conception (pursuing or have pursued donor eggs, donor sperm or donor embryo)
Topics Covered:
Genetic Grief
Common Fears Addressed by Donor Conceived Adults
Epigenetic Connections
The Donor’s Perspective
Owning Your Story
Cultivating a Soul Connection
Love Reimagined
A Virtual Community
Becoming a member of my virtual community gives you access to a safe space to connect with other women in our Infertility Unfiltered community along with access to resources to help you on your donor conception journey.
Connect with other women by stage or location - you decide how and when you connect and what you see.
Get access to exclusive donor conception resources that are only available on our virtual community platform.
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