infertility can really suck.

After keeping it a secret for many years, I finally "came out" with my disease in 2015 - infertility, endometriosis and premature ovarian failure. Much of what you find online about family building via egg donation isn’t based on personal experience. There’s so much unnecessary fear being created by people who haven’t actually lived it.

That’s where I come in!

I’m here to help you find your way to or through the path of donor conception with unconditional support. I want you to see the joy and the love. The beauty and the normalcy that I feel my family represents. If you can see it, you can be it. Right?

Thus, I've created this site for YOU, to make you laugh, remind you that you CAN DO THIS, and to offer resources and support to help you keep fighting like the champion that you are!

If you are looking for support please visit Infertility Unfiltered to sign up for a program that fits your needs.

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DONOR EGGS CHANGED MY LIFE

After 8 years of infertility and 5 years of fertility treatments, in 2017, I finally got pregnant with the help of an egg donor and it was the absolute BEST thing that ever happened to me. FINALLY… the baby that was always meant for me, genetics not required. My beautiful, magical girl, Florence.

But, my journey didn’t end there.

I so desperately wanted another baby - a sibling for the love of my life. We had two embryos left from our egg donor, and unfortunately they didn’t take, so I made the very hard decision to start all over with a new egg donor. Thank GOD I did. I got pregnant with my son in 2022, and in 2023 he arrived and everything made sense. All the pain and suffering led me right here.

My children are the place my life begins and ends. The first time our eyes met - I knew I had loved these babies many moons ago, for thousands of years, in previous lives, on another planet, forever and ever ago. You can’t screw up what’s meant for you, that’s just how the universe works.

They were always for me and me for them.

In my ebook "Why I'm Glad My Eggs Didn't Work" I honor the pain and the beauty of infertility, and provide a source of hope for those looking to carry on this magical path to parenthood. It’s a book beyond clinical trials, data and research. It's a personal story about rising above your broken eggs and finding purpose and joy. It’s a place to find comfort in knowing you are truly seen and heard, and a sense of relief that it’s all going to be okay.

LIKE MANY WOMEN WHO ARE FACED WITH THE IDEA OF CONCEIVING VIA DONOR EGGS, WHAT WE NEED MOST IS HOPE.

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Coping with the “What-Ifs” of Not Sharing DNA with My Children

If you’re navigating infertility and considering donor conception whether it be egg donation, embryo donation or sperm donation, you’ve likely faced an overwhelming number of “what-if” questions. The uncertainty can feel all-consuming, and if you’re anything like me, you may have found yourself trapped in an anxiety spiral.

How to Talk to Friends and Family About Using an Egg Donor to Start a Family

Starting a family is supposed to be filled with joy and excitement — at least that’s what society tells us. Right? We never expect to include a third person into our family building narrative, or that we will experience a deep level of grief while trying to conceive. You will likely find yourself doing countless hours of research and reading on the topic, attending therapy sessions and support groups and making friends with complete strangers on social media who also walked this path, who ultimately become your safe people. You may experience shock, grief, and even trauma as you navigate the path to parenthood via donor conception.

The Inspiration Behind My Donor Conception Children's Book

“Our Hearts Match” is a story of a T-Rex Mama and her beloved little brontosaurus, who talk very openly about their physical differences and confidently celebrate what makes them each unique, while also leaning in on what makes them “match” on the inside - their hearts.

I believe this book can not only help children learn about what connects us as family, but also help parents process the hard feelings around genetic grief and shift their perspectives to a more beautiful lens. This mother/child duo is proof that we don’t have to match each other to have dino-mite love and connection.